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    Our psychologists are equipped with methods, strategies and techniques that are not only research and evidence-based but are also based on years of experience of helping people from all walks of life.

    When you come to People Psychology, we tailor our methods to best suit your circumstances as well as your short-term and long-term goals.

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    Our aim to provide a safe and comfortable space for you to share and explore your concerns with our psychologists, we strive to make sure our office is easily accessible to clients and those interested in taking advantage of our services. We know that the decision to seek help is already a huge step, so we try to make sure the rest of the steps that involve documentation and travel aren’t as difficult. This could hopefully help you and our clients focus on their treatment and their therapy.

    People Psychology Melbourne CBD is situated in the Melbourne CBD (City Business District). We’re a short walk from Flinders Street Station and trams travel along Collins Street with tram stops close to our office at Level 32, 367 Collins Street (Optus Centre), Melbourne VIC 3000. We also have offices in Brighton, Toorak, Double Bay, NSW and via telehealth Australia-wide.

    Relationships are a vital part of our lives, but they can also be challenging. Sometimes, we may face issues such as sexual difficulties, parenting conflicts, or communication breakdowns. These can affect our happiness and well-being. That’s why couples counselling can be a valuable resource for couples who want to improve their relationships.

    Relationship counselling can help you and your partner to develop better ways of relating to each other. You can learn how to handle disagreements constructively, rather than letting them escalate into resentment or hostility. You can also learn how to communicate more effectively and understand each other’s perspectives, needs, and desires. By doing so, you can enhance your intimacy and connection with your partner.

    Relationship counselling can also help you to enrich your life with more joy and happiness. You can discover how to bring more care and patience into your interactions with your partner. You can also learn how to express your feelings and preferences without criticizing or blaming each other. Moreover, you can explore how to overcome the barriers that may prevent you from talking about sensitive topics such as sex or parenting decisions.

    Relationship counselling can help you to create a safer and more comfortable environment for yourself and your partner. You can learn how to cope with the triggers and memories that may cause you to feel insecure or anxious in your relationship. You can also learn how to foster trust and closeness with your partner. By doing so, you can experience more meaningful and satisfying relationships.

    Couples counselling can help you and your partner to:

    • Clarify your expectations
    • Enhance your communication skills
    • Increase couple intimacy
    • Bring back “the spark”
    • Make it possible for even troubled partnerships to flourish

    Individual or Couples Therapy: Which One is Right for You?

    Ideally, both you and your partner should work together with a psychologist to address the challenges in your relationship. However, sometimes one partner may be reluctant or unwilling to go to counselling. Or maybe you prefer to seek help individually first.

    In such cases, individual counselling may be an option for you. It does not mean that you are the only one with issues. Relationships are dynamic and complex, and when one person changes, the other person may respond differently as well. Therefore, individual counselling can still create positive change in your relationship by helping you to:

    • Communicate your wants, needs, and frustrations more effectively
    • Understand your partner’s feelings
    • Cope with unpleasant emotions
    • Resist the urge to criticise or otherwise behave cruelly toward your partner

    Sometimes, individual counselling may be enough to resolve the issue in your relationship. Other times, it may lead to joint counselling later on. Either way, individual counselling can help you improve the quality of your relationship.

    What Makes Couples Counselling Different from Individual Counselling?

    Couples counselling is not just individual counselling with two people. It requires a different approach and a different set of skills from your psychologist. Not all individual counsellors are experienced in couples counselling. So how do you choose a good couples counsellor? Here are some things to consider.

    Won’t ‘Take Sides’

    In individual counselling, the therapist is on your side, even when they disagree with you. In couples counselling, the therapist is on neither side, but on the side of the relationship. The therapist should challenge both you and your partner’s behaviour, thoughts, and feelings, without blaming or judging anyone.

    Unconditional Positive Regard Concept

    In both couples and individual counselling, the therapist should listen to you without judgement or shaming you. This does not mean approving of everything you do. The therapist should accept and support you unconditionally, but also guide and correct you when necessary. This is especially important in couples counselling, where the therapist needs to gain more information about your behaviour and help you improve it.

    How Couples Counselling Can Help You Resolve Conflicts Without Judgement

    A good couples counsellor will not just let you talk about your feelings or fight without intervening. They will direct the therapy in a way that helps you make progress and have meaningful discussions. They will act as mediators between you and your partner, but with one crucial difference: they will not judge.

    A good couples counsellor will not tell you that you are “wrong” or “evil,” but will help you see how your problematic behaviour affects your relationship, your partner, and yourself. They will encourage you to change your behaviour for the better, without shaming or blaming you.

    However, this also means that you should not punish your partner for what they say in counselling. If you get angry or resentful about what happens in counselling, it will harm your relationship. You should bring this issue up with your counsellor if it happens.

    People Psychology Melbourne CBD offers comprehensive counselling for couples at every stage of their relationship, from premarital counselling to counselling couples who have been together for decades. We can help you find a path to deep satisfaction in your relationships.

    How to Make the Most of Couples Counselling

    Couples counselling is a collaborative process between you, your counsellor, and your partner. It requires a lot of work and commitment from all parties. You will only get out of it what you put into it. Therefore, to make couples counselling a success, you should:

    • Be honest in your sessions
    • Follow the advice and tips from your counsellor
    • Support your partner and avoid making them feel bad
    • Have an open mind and a positive attitude
    • Stick with it for the long term

    Couples counselling can help you improve your relationship, but only if you are willing to work on it. We are here to help you along the way.

    Suggestions on How To Improve Your Relationships

    Here are some ideas to help you improve your relationships:

    • Focus on the things that matter most. Don’t waste time and energy on trivial disputes that only hurt your partner.
    • Be honest with your counsellor and with your partner. Don’t lie or hide anything that may affect your relationship.
    • Allow your partner to speak their mind. Don’t get angry or aggressive because of what they say in the session. You can even give each other a “free pass” to say what you want without consequences.
    • Tell your counsellor if you don’t like the way the therapy is going or if you think a certain strategy won’t work. They are there to help you, not to impose their views on you.
    • Actively work to implement the strategies your counsellor suggests. Don’t just listen and forget. Apply what you learn to your relationship.
    • Listen attentively and with an open mind. Don’t judge or criticise your partner for speaking up. Try to understand their point of view and feelings.
    • Give some time for the therapy to work. Results may not be immediate, but they will come if you stick with it. Don’t quit after a few sessions.
    • Commit to your partner. If you want to leave or if your partner is abusive, this therapy will not work. Only attend the session if you are truly ready.

    Your relationship was once a source of love and beauty. Couples counselling can help you restore that love and beauty. But it takes both partners to work on themselves.

    Other Relationships Matter as Well

    Family relationships can also be challenging and often cause conflict and distress. Family therapy can help all family members communicate more effectively and make everyone feel heard and understood.

    Finding the right psychologist or family therapist can take time, but it is worth the effort.

    No relationship is perfect. However, the conscious effort of both partners to work at it can make it feel this way. As a result, it creates a more profound and stronger connection. Then again, not all couples are the same.

    Do you find now both of you are always arguing over the things you used to agree on? Consequently, do you find the two of you are slowly distancing yourselves from one another – physically and emotionally. Any number of situations can affect a couple’s marriage or relationship. Some of these may include:

    • You plan to start a family, or you and your partner are blending your families from previous relationships.
    • You have small children to raise.
    • Both or one of you is under a lot of pressure at work.
    • Your financial situation as a couple is stressing both of you.
    • One of you is dealing with anxiety, depression or any other mental health issue.

    The stress and conflict arising from any of these situations can cause a rift in a relationship. If left unchecked, then it could lead to a separation. However, all is not lost. Couples can look towards counseling to help them through the issues they’re having. People Psychology in the Melbourne CBD offers advice to couples who want to give their relationship a fighting chance.

    People Psychology in the Melbourne CBD understands that it’s not always easy for anyone to talk with a counsellor. It becomes even harder in marriage and couples counselling when one partner is reluctant to take part in the sessions. However, rest assured we can still help you and your relationship get back on track.

    Our therapists will hold individual sessions with you in this case. It can be a starting point in your relationship’s healing process. Your progress in the meetings could eventually encourage your partner to join you for a couple’s session. So, don’t lose hope. Your commitment to work on your relationship is the first step in the right direction.

    At People Psychology in the Melbourne CBD, our psychologists will work together with you and your partner to create an ideal treatment plan. Some of the things that we may discuss in a session could be:

    Looking at the problems that have affected your relationship in the past and examine what issues remain.

    Establish healthier lines of communication between you and your partner.

    Encourage both of you to let go of past hurts and move on as a couple.

    Set team and individual goals for both of you to work on to help restore your mental connection as a couple to start working together as one.

    Identify ways on how the two of you can reconnect with one another as a couple, and how to achieve harmony and restore balance in your relationship.

    Practice stress management techniques to reduce existing and future conflicts.

    Our psychologists can provide a safe and impartial setting for you and your partner to discuss issues confronting your relationship. Likewise, we also offer support to the LGBT+ community. Relationships are worth saving when you genuinely love the person you’re with. Contact People Psychology in the Melbourne CBD to talk with one of our experienced couples’ counsellors.

    People Psychology has locations in Melbourne, around Australia, and also provides online Australia-Wide telehealth couples counselling. Locations include:

    • Melbourne CBD
    • Brighton
    • Toorak
    • Double Bay, NSW

    Counselling requires an experienced and professional psychologist. Our psychologists provide a safe discreet space. Our People Psychology Client Specialist Team is available to help guide you to find an appropriate psychologist for couple counselling. Feel free to call us on (03) 9133 0996 and take the first step.

    For more information about Couples Counselling: See also: Wikipedia: Couples Counselling

    Want to know more about our team of psychologists? See also: Our Team