When trying to understand your sexuality, you may experience feelings of isolation, shame and fear of rejection.
Confusion about your sexual orientation can lead to difficulty in developing a strong sense of self. You may also be overwhelmed with anxiety about what you and others believe is socially appropriate.
Even openly gay people can experience difficulty with unconscious issues about their sexuality that interfere with them having a successful same-sex relationship.
Speaking to a psychologist who understands sexuality issues can help you find peace of mind in defining and accepting your sexuality. There are many people just like you – you are not alone.
Your sexuality relates to who you are as a sexual being, your feelings about sex and how you express them. You are always a sexual being regardless of when, how and with whom you choose to express it. Sexuality is lifelong, it doesn’t just turn on and off.
Your sexual identity means the way in which you refer to yourself as heterosexual, lesbian, gay, or bisexual. Your sexual identity can also be different in public than in private. For example, if you are gay, you may feel confident and supported to declare this identity among friends, but publicly feel pressured to identify as heterosexual.
Sexual orientation means who you are attracted to (men only, women only, or men and women).
How Counselling Can Help ?
Understanding your sexuality is a gradual process and with your psychologist, you can analyse what you are thinking, what you are feeling and why this is so.
Counselling can assist you in finding clarity about your sexuality and accepting the possibility of being gay. Learning to accept yourself for who you are will enable you to start letting go of societal pressures and family expectations.
A psychologist can also offer support in your decision making process around issues such as coming out and building healthy romantic relationships.
People Psychology provides individual and couples counselling for the gay community and has psychologists who are gay with a specialty in this area.
Make an appointment with a gay-friendly People Psychology psychologist today.